A friend shared this post with me. I was going to write my own-but it would have been exactly the same as this one (although I only have three kids and the ones in her post don’t look anything like mine. Also-I didn’t marry a Hawaiian Texan in Pennsylvania. The man I did marry is from Colorado and fixes pinball machines-among many other things).

So here are a few pictures to go along with “The Post I Didn’t Write But Would Have If I had an Hour This Morning to Spare to Write it”.

Enjoy-and please-be sure to return back here to LaStradaTostada to comment  once you’ve read it-I’d love to hear your thoughts!

La Gringa


10 thoughts on “Patience?!?!

  1. F Gmail says:

    Hi! I’m so glad you homeschool! I think you made the right choice. 🙂

    I also wonder why we can’t just all get along? Why do moms have to be so critical of moms from the other side of the tracks (this goes both ways!)? Do you love and treasure your children? That’s THE most important part. Why do we have to judge how others parent when they are loving their children? I just think it’s sad when we draw this line in the sand to justify why we do what we do. Do it cause that’s the way you love your kids! Enough said.

    Anyway, I love you and I’m glad you do what you do. 🙂


    • I think the goal here is not to just “get along” but to realize that by choosing to stay home with our kids and/or educate them and disciple them all day is more of a natural decision. I don’t think the post I linked to was accusing families who choose to send their kids to public school and/or have two working parents was accusing these families of not loving and treasuring their children. I have no doubt that the majority of us (especially those that are reading my blog) love our children immensely. What I would like to discuss is the way our culture erroneously places superhuman qualities on families choosing to keep their kids at home. I actually think it takes more patience to have both parents working and/or kids in public school. To experience true joy and fulfillment on either path requires a dependence on the Almighty God.
      p.s.A look into the history of education in our country, especially the source of the public school system as it looks today, is very eye-opening.

      I love you, too…thanks for loving and treasuring your kids.


  2. 1. When someone says they don’t have patience to Homeschool, I say “neither do I!”
    2. I loved the quote “When did the I-don’t-have-the-patience-to-deal-with-my-own-children thinking become the norm?”
    3. The end of the article was very… hopeful I guess. She said that she’s bonded with her children and that homeschooling is good parenting and some other hopeful things, but to me it’s more like “I’ll see the fruits of this later, but right now I’m just too close to see it” although I do agree that I only can do this when I’m praying constantly.


    • Thank you, Beth, for sharing! I am enjoying the discussion here and would love to hear your thoughts on the other comments if you have the time! I think as the kids get older you start to see the real benefits to discipling and educating at home. At least that’s my hope anyway : )


  3. Lori,

    I have a hard time not getting angry at posts like this. Here are my reasons: I am accused of being a “terrible” parents b/c my children are going to daycare and I am working. That I am putting my children second to a “career”. Its like you can’t be a Christian if you don’t stay home with your kids and homeschool. NOT AN OPTION FOR ME. We are not living this extravagant life. We are barely eating and have no gas in our cars. I would love it just for once for someone to not assume b/c you are working that you are outside of God’s will. It has nothing to do with patience or not wanting to be with my children. If I had the option I would be with my kids but that doesn’t mean that I am not parenting and not teaching my children. It doesn’t mean that I “don’t have the patience for them”. It means that I have to take care of them by providing for them right now. Sorry but posts like this get me going big time b/c I am on the other side.


    • Thank you so much for commenting, Laura. It would have been easy for you to grumble and click away. I think the point of this post is to express the “normality” of home schooling. I understand that not all families can have one parent at home and/or home school their kids. But I think what is important to realize is that choosing to keep your kids home and disciple and educate them within the context of your own home is actually a natural decision. Honestly, I think families that have two working parents or a single parent raising the kids have it WAY more difficult and require much more patience and “superhuman” qualities. I don’t believe this to be a debate between “good parents who choose to stay home” vs. “bad parents who work and send their kids to public schools”. I’d like to see it be more of a discussion between what is more natural between the two options. I believe it’s important to realize that although as home schoolers we are choosing to have our kids at home all day-we are actually choosing a more natural approach. Both require an utter dependence on the Lord, from which our patience and joy flow.

      I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts and love you for your honesty!


  4. I sure see your point Lori…I know you and I am sure you are not trying to throw stones at other moms who do things differently than you do but rather you are challenging us all to take a step back and get the big picture view of what truly is best for our children and families. Often we get so caught up in the details of everyday life and forget the BIG picture of why we do what we do. It is good to take a big picture look at the history of education and discipleship of our children. I think you are wanting to have a ‘macro’ discussion on the raising of children and not a ‘micro’ discussion.

    Laura l – I hear what you are saying as well and I hurt for moms that are in your position (wanting to be with their children more but unable at the time due to circumstances). I do not think anyone here would want to accuse you of being a terrible parent – I did not hear that in the post at all. If it is your desire to be home with your children, I encourage you to pray in faith that God would provide a way for you to disciple them in this ‘natural’ way that Lori is talking about. I have seen many moms, even single mothers, pray this and it really is beautiful to see God faithfully answer those prayers and enable them to be home with their children.

    Sometimes, in discussions like these, if we are able to set our personal circumstances aside momentarily and look at what truly is best in the long run for our children and what is most in line with God’s Word then we are better able to evaluate our present circumstances and discern what is truly best for our individual children.


  5. Susanna says:

    I’m someone who might consider homeschooling if I had a bigger family, but I don’t want my only child to be kidless all day. So I’ve never really considered it seriously, but instead we have chosen a school that in some ways resembles what we might do with homeschooling — lots of individual projects and each child pursuing their passion to explore their gifts and interests and the world. And that’s what I think the author is saying, for parents to step back and recognize their children as gifts and appreciate them rather than treating them as a nuisance. Difficult sometimes, yes, but we were all children once and what would life be without them?

    I do appreciate her point that homeschooling is *a* natural choice that has happened for years, but I’d also say that plenty of people might have wanted schools but did not have them. I wouldn’t say homeschooling is necessarily *more* natural, and school doesn’t feel “unnatural” to me. For one thing, for my child, as I said, it lets her associate with other children, which isn’t possible in our house or our neighborhood, and I think kids being kids together is natural and necessary.

    And I think her idea that many parents — not all parents, and definitely not only because of their schooling choices — have abdicated some of the responsibility for their kids resonates with teachers. This article was circulating on our teacher friends’ Facebook pages this week: http://theeducatorsroom.com/2012/09/the-exhaustion-of-the-american-teacher/


    • This is fantastic, Susanna. Thanks for commenting and putting so much thought into this. My parents were both public school teachers (my dad was a high school principal in the last two decades before he retired). I think they would agree wholeheartedly with the article you link to. I appreciate your perspective and additional thoughts on the topic!!


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